Journey Monologues No. 7: What is your emotional age? #enlightenment
No one goes through this life without some type of suffering or trauma. And often it occurs when we are young leaving us defenseless to its consequences. When trauma occurs, we may shut down, by hiding away parts of ourselves, or go to sleep, by losing that inner connection with our true being. If this happens, our emotional growth can be largely stunted or, in severe cases, stopped completely.
You see your emotional age doesn’t have anything to do with how old you are. Once you shut down or fall asleep, time goes on while the hidden wounds, mistaken thoughts and delusioned self-image keeps you prisoner. The personality you develop to cover all these perceived shortcomings becomes who you are and where you spend your energy. You can be stuck in the same place for years, even decades without any emotional growth.
Have you ever felt when speaking to someone like you are talking to a wall? When a person is completely shut off to their inner wisdom and being, they become a wall. They readily project out to the World what they think they need to make themselves whole. Yet they are thoroughly unavailable to pick up on any clues or gifts from this Life as to how to reconnect.
These people may never awaken to the beauty within them. They can become highly manipulative and angry in a vain effort to shape their outside world into something they can only find on the inside. I know. I have known several walls in my life. I have lived with them. I have loved them. And I have been them.
Eckhart Tolle asks in the beginning of his book if we can defy the ego which condemns us to imprisonment within our own personality. Are we ready? I sincerely hope so.
Sometimes we have to hit rock bottom or stoop fairly close to it before we are ready to look inside ourselves. The good news is, when we are ready, the Universe is waiting. In fact, Life sends clues out to us Sleeping Beauties all the time. We just have to be ready to see them, hear them and recognize them.
When you do start to wake up, begin to see your path in front of you and listen to your inner wisdom whispering, be warned. Your emotions may have been tucked away for a long time. You can be very vulnerable and raw when you start to peel away unwanted layers. You may be surprised by the pain, anxiety and anguish you uncover.
Wake yourself up gently and with a lot of compassion. Give your emotions and your heart a chance to catch up. Remember you may be at a very young emotional age. And most importantly be grateful you have found your path and have started your journey.
Be thankful for the fact that you won’t end this life asleep from the suffering and pain you have endured. I would go as far as to say, be joyful as you could, indeed, end this life in a wondrous state of Enlightenment.